Be Grateful for Your Gifts, Without Envy


December in many countries centers around the spirit of giving. Even  companies and individuals with no religious affiliation make  special contributions during “the season”:

–Year end employee bonuses
–Meals for the unfed
–Shelters for the homeless
–Extra tips for servers at restaurants
–Special gratuities for your newsletter delivery person

How you react to the gifts that come your way is very important.

Just imagine that you are enjoying your annual family holiday party. After a calorie-packed dinner, you and your relatives start  unwrapping gifts. At first, you feel very satisfied.

But then you look at what somebody else got. His sport coat  or her dress looks more expensive and stylish than yours.  Suddenly, instead of feeling thankful your mood turns to envy.

What if you dared express your reduced appreciation? What if  you complained about the perceived inequity?

Not only would your ingratitude ruin the festive occasion for others, probably you wouldn’t even want to use the gift others had given you.

Let’s make a constructive comparison. . .one that will help you and  me plenty in 2018.

I’ll make my own admission.

Every day I look around and see dozens of talented people who got wonderful gifts I missed out on:

–Singing on key
–Hitting a golf ball 300 yards and shooting par golf
–Writing fiction (or even understanding fiction others wrote)
–Learning science easily
–Understanding economics
–Repairing electrical or mechanical equipment
–Drawing or painting

OK, what happens if I allow envious thoughts to control me?  It’s very likely I will use a huge amount of energy coveting  what “they” got. As a result, I will not make maximum use  of the talents nature gave me.

So for 2018, pay little attention to the abilities others got. Focus on  what you have–and how you will develop your innate strengths to guarantee both professional and personal success.

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Before Acting on Assumptions–Check Them

Life as a graduate student at Ohio University would have been demanding enough my first year without that inconsiderate neighbor in the building behind me. Every night while my wife and two small children were trying to get to sleep, this guy took his dog “Deal” out for an evening walk.

For ten minutes or so, that pet owner would call his unleashed dog by name dozens of times, with his loud voice echoing between those two brick buildings, shattering the silence my family needed for sleep.

After several weeks of tolerating his annoying and thoughtless behavior, I decided to confront the night walker. I did that one evening when he entered our apartment building, with his dog close by. Without introducing myself or using a courteous tone, I blurted out:
“Look, buddy, I’m fed up with you and that dog of yours. Every night when you take him out for a walk and yell ‘Deal, Deal’ every few seconds, not only do you keep my family awake, you upset us so much we can’t calm down when you take your mutt Deal back inside. Enough is enough. Get the message?”

He looked startled. I understood why when he answered, “Hey, man, you’re complaining to the wrong guy. This is my first time here. I’m just visiting a friend on second floor in that other building.”

Of course, my tone changed. I apologized. Even this long afterward, I remember blushing, too.

As I recall that embarrassing blunder today, I know I’d like to have a couple of minutes to talk with the prominent individuals who create national and even international news daily by making statements based on assumptions—assumptions not supported by facts. Yet because I won’t have an opportunity to challenge their baseless statements, renowned public figures will just keep saying they “misspoke,” “misremembered,” or had their remarks “taken out of context.”

Oh, you’ll notice I haven’t named any of the culprits. My guess is you have identified at least a dozen of them already.